Does He Want to Talk to Me?
Message: Hi. I've been talking with this guy for about 2 months and he’s amazing but I can't help but over think when I don’t hear from him for long periods of time. I start to stress out on whether he truly wants to talk to me or not. We don’t have any title but I want there to be one so I've been quite anxious about what to do.
Response: This is a fairly common feeling that a lot of people experience, especially in the early stages of a relationship. It’s still new which makes it hard to know someone well enough to understand what their silences can mean. A lot of times this is a feeling that goes away with time as you get to know them better and trust them more. However, there is something you can do to speed the process along.
Communication is foundational in any healthy relationship, including romantic ones. It’s ok to let him know how you feel when you don’t hear from him for a while. There are many possibilities for these silences and he may not realize how it feels to you. For example, some people don’t like texting or talking on the phone, maybe he’s spending time with family or friends, or perhaps caught up with school/work. If he seems quiet or distant, its ok to say something like “hey, I haven’t heard from you as much lately, is everything ok?”
Also keep in mind, if someone wants to spend time with you they will find a way. So try not to get so caught up in the shiny newness of the relationship that you lose sight of what you’re worth. You are the daughter of a king, and any man worth your time will make sure you know you are worth his.
God has the right person for you out there. It is important to focus on being the best version of yourself, unapologetically you, and open to whatever and whoever God has in store for you. If that person is this particular guy, he won’t be scared off by your desire to be honest and genuine about your feelings.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.” - 1 Corinthians 13:1
